Mommy’s Monday Moments: Fulfilling My Little Girl’s Dream and My Bucket List by Swimming with a Dolphin

“Mommy, are you going to swim with the dolphins? That would be so much fun!” my three year old exclaimed as she looked at the website of tourist attractions in Mexico with her daddy. I responded, “I don’t know, honey. Maybe.” I never did anything like that before, but as a result of my daughter’s enthusiasm, I strongly considered doing it. Last week, my husband and I vacationed in Mexico while Quinn stayed with my mother, and when the hotel representative of tourist attractions presented the brochure about the Dolphin Discovery, I felt that I was destined to do this activity to fulfill my little one’s dream as well as my very own “bucket list.”

We arrived at our destination on Sunday, and to ensure that I didn’t have too much time to change my mind, I booked the Dolphin activity for that Monday. I’m a novice swimmer, so I purposely didn’t ask how deep the water as to minimize any anxiety, and I found myself channeling my daughter’s fearlessness as I got into the water. It was such a wonderful experience. Upon entering the water, I felt calm, and my heart was no longer racing from fear but just from the excitement of interacting with the dolphin who had such a sweet and calming aura. I jokingly told my husband that I want one as a pet because they just seem so loving.

After being away from my daughter for a week, she first gave her father and me big hugs and then asked, “Did you swim with the dolphins, Mommy?” I proudly said, “Yes, I did sweetie.” Then, I gave her a plush dolphin along with a dolphin t-shirt as souvenirs, and she was very excited to receive them and asked when she can swim with the dolphins too.

Had it not been for Quinn asking me about swimming with the dolphins, I wouldn’t have stepped outside of my comfort zone and ventured out to do something new and daring. Who would have ever thought that my three year old could evoke the quality of fearlessness within me? This truly is a moment I will never forget and owe this experience to my daughter.

All the best,

Tanya

What Would We Do Without It Wednesday: The Power of Confidence

“I think I can do it!” is a simple statement which eventually leads to the phrase, “I did it!” When associated with fear or inexperience, the latter phrase becomes even more powerful and meaningful to the person accomplishing the task or new skill. From my own experiences, I’ve found that practice or honing one’s skills is important, but confidence is essential. It helps me to not feel defeated and to believe in myself. My daughter, who just turned three just a month ago and is in the process of learning this lifelong lesson.

Sometimes, she grows frustrated when she thinks she can’t do something or has an initial struggle, but with encouragement she will usually persist. When she fears doing a task or new skill, forget about it! She will avoid it at all cost, similar to many adults. That’s when my confidence in her can be quite helpful in giving her the motivation to have confidence in herself and to go from “I can’t” to “I think I can” to “I know I can” to “I did it!” Just this past Monday, we went to the park, and Quinn proceeded to climb of the ladder on the playground equipment. In the past, she’s wanted me to stay nearby, which I had no problem doing as the over-protective mother, but this time she climbed up quickly and without me even prompting her, she turned around and gave me a thumbs up which displayed her confidence. “I did it, Mommy! I was fast too!” she said with a smile on her face.
There will be times when my little girl  or I may experience fear as she has new experiences, but I will always try my best to show her that I am confident in her abilities and motivate her that she can do it! What would we do without the power of confidence?
All the best,
Tanya