Category Archives: Baby Musings

No More Hanging on to Secrets for My Little Girl

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2016-02-10 10.42.25While it was only a little over a year and a half ago that my little girl began putting together two and three word sentences, it seems like she’s been talking since day one. My soon to be three year old (in May of this year) has become so articulate, has questions about everything and wants to share information about everything too. This has been a wonderful experience because we’re having actual conversations where she is responding and engaged in what we’re talking about. She’ll ask me, “How was your day, Mommy?” or “Did you have a good night’s sleep?” When I tell her we will be going somewhere, she’ll ask, “Are we going to Target?” This is one of her favorite stores.

Now, she reminds me of those cutesy children on TV shows who tell any and everything. Just the other day when we were at The Little Gym, she informed her instructor, “We went to Target today. After class, we’re going home for lunch. Mommy said I can’t have a cupcake because I can’t have special treats all the time!” When her father comes home from work, she tends to give him a full report of what we did, and she will do the same for me when I come home from work. Interestingly, she even includes if she didn’t listen or misbehaved at some point throughout the course of the day. “We had breakfast. I ate waffles and sausage. Then I brushed my teeth and used the rinse cup. We played in the play room. Then we went to Target and got milk, cheese and some cereal for you, Daddy! When we came home, Mommy made lunch. I didn’t eat all of my sandwich, but I had a good nap.”

I knew my days were numbered when it came to purchasing gifts and other “surprise” items in front of Quinn, and now with her wanting to share everything she knows, hanging on to no secrets, it looks like I’m going to have to shop for those “special” items without her. When I purchased Valentine’s cards, she couldn’t wait to tell him that we got a special card for him.

On the bright side, my little girl not keeping secrets is great and will come in handy when she does eventually start preschool. It is comforting to know that she is capable of sharing what she did for the day and the interactions she has with others as this will put my mind at ease.

All the best,

Tanya

What Would We Do Without It Wednesday: Fun Brushing Teeth

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Brushing with the Magic Timer App
Brushing with the Magic Timer App
Brushing with the Magic Timer App
Brushing with the Magic Timer App

Immediately after breakfast and right before bed, my little girl will say, “Mommy, let’s go to the bathroom so I can brush my teeth!” I love hearing the excitement in her voice and seeing her willingness to brush her teeth like a big girl.  “Today, I want to brush my teeth with Rapunzel…No, I want to brush them with Doc McStuffins!” my two and a half year old informs me.  She is not imagining that these different characters are visiting her. They actually are interacting with her through my iPad.

Shortly after Quinn turned two, I went from purchasing the training toothpaste to Oral B’s Stages 2+ toothpaste, and I noticed a free downloadable Magic Timer App. This is an awesome app that plays a little music as the time counts down from two minutes with the toothbrush scrubbing the screen to reveal a picture of a Disney character or two. The toothbrush actually moves from each quadrant on the screen every 30 seconds to let the child know it is time to brush a different section of teeth. Then, at the end, the child earns a star on the calendar along with a sticker in a Disney book. There is also a parent feature and a section for entering rewards when the child visits the dentist and has no cavities.

Of course, Oral B had to find a way to make some money from the free app, so in order to get new sticker books a new toothpaste or toothbrush product must be scanned. The default sticker book is Mickey Mouse. So far, we’ve purchased Minnie Mouse, Doc McStuffins, Disney Princesses and Cars toothpaste to collect different sticker books, Needless to say, we have enough toothpaste to last her for a year or so, but it’s worth it since my little girl is so excited to brush her teeth.

This app is perfect not just for young children but any child or even adult who needs a little motivation when it comes to brushing his or her teeth. It helps to develop good habits and holds the “brusher” accountable as the stars fill up on the calendar and the stickers fill up in the digital albums. It is probably one of the reasons my little girl did so well at her first dental appointment.

All the best,

Tanya

Terrific Toy Tuesday: Tea for Two Anyone?

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2016-01-08 13.24.17“May I have two spoons of sugar please?” I ask. “Yes, you may.” My little girl says as she uses her little spoon and scoops the imaginary sugar into my teacup. I just loved having tea parties when I was a little girl, and now I get to enjoy them with my little girl.  It’s such a wonderful way to not only interact with one another but to improve her vocabulary, ability to follow directions and expand her imagination. Initially, she would just ask if I wanted some tea. Now, she will say, “What would you like with your tea? Do you want a heart shaped cookie or a round cookie?”

This activity enables her to practice counting and decision-making skills too. She sets up her  Fisher Price Magical Tea for Two Set on her serving tray all by herself, and says, “It’s time for tea!” Since the set only comes with two cookies, when she is serving her father, me and herself tea, she’ll inform me, “You had a cookie last time, Mommy. Now, Daddy gets a cookie.”

When we have our tea parties, I sometimes feel like I am holding up a mirror as my two and a half year old utters statements she has heard me say  or way in which she says these statements to demonstrate her good manners. One time, she commented on my sugar intake telling me, “I don’t think you need anymore sugar, Mommy. You already had three spoons! How about some milk or cream instead?” I can tell that she likes being in control and asserting herself. What I like is that she does it in a playful and respectful way.

Here’s to more tea parties with my little girl!

All the best,

Tanya

Mommy Memories of Memorable Moments Mondays: How My Little Girl Has Grown!

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Quinn at One Week
Quinn at Five Months
Quinn at Two and a Half Years Old

Though I have only been a mother for a little over two and a half years, I can confirm that the rumors are true: the time from infancy through toddlerhood (and probably beyond) really does fly by. If you’re not a picture taker, I’d urge you to become one because even as a person who has a fairly sharp memory, short term and long term, I find that some moments I consider to be memorable (Who and I kidding…all of them are to me!) are not only fleeting but blurring together.

Every once and a while, my little girl will do something that conjures up one of those memorable moments. One in particular is when she squeezes her 39 inch long body into her infant to toddler rocker and will insist on keeping the pull toys on which make it even more difficult for her to fit. “I love this chair,” she exclaims. I then can’t help but think about when she was just a week old relaxing in her infant seat and how excited I was when she started reaching out for the toys in front of her and spinning them around a few months later. It was our “go-to” chair when I was grading papers, and Quinn wanted to be nearby but not necessarily held.

Of course, I love watching my little girl grow in a multitude of ways, but I also love just reminiscing and thinking about how much she has grown and how much we have grown together as mother and daughter.

All the best,

Tanya

My Little Girl! My Valentine!

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Every evening, since my daughter was an infant, I say, “Mommy loves you!” as I put her to sleep. As she was just learning how to talk, she would repeat what I said with a smile on her face, “Mommy loves you too!” I would chuckle and say, “No, Quinnie, you say, “I love you too, Mommy.” Now, without prompting and at times when it’s least expected, my two and a half year old will say, “Mommy, I love you so much.” It really melts my heart. Yes, Valentine’s Day for most is about romance, but I could not imagine life without celebrating it with my little girl: my valentine!

All the best,

Tanya

What Would We Do Without It Wednesday: Thanks for Everything Daniel Tiger

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Daniel TigerIt’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood when my two and a half year old listens, follows directions, says please and thank you, shares, takes turns and is just an overall pleasure to be around. While her father and I would love to take all of the credit for how well-behaved and mannerly our little girl can be, we most certainly couldn’t do it without our neighborhood friends, Daniel Tiger, his family and friends.

cover170x170Each morning, since Quinn was a baby, I’ve been playing a little mood music while we eat breakfast and get started with the day. About a month ago, I purchased Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood: Life’s Little Lessons from iTunes since she enjoys watching the show from time to time. This is one of the best purchases I’ve made for her because she will not only request that we play Daniel Tiger music, but she will sing along with the songs and even apply some of the principles mentioned in the songs.

When we are playing together or she’s playing with other children, she’ll say, “We have to share and play together! That’s what Daniel Tiger says.” Then she will follow through and share with whoever she’s playing with. Or when she needs to go to the bathroom, even in stores, she sings, “When you have to go potty, stop and go right away!” Then we are off to the restroom. I’ve even got her to try a few new foods as a result of listening to the song, “Try a New Food. It Might Taste Good.” Also, if I’m being honest, many of the songs address issues not just children but adults too, like anger issues. “When you’re feeling mad, and you want to roar, take a deep breath, and count to four!” Every once in a while, I find myself counting to four to relax, and it works!

What would we do without Daniel Tiger? He’s always welcome in our neighborhood!

All the best,

Tanya

Terrific Toy Tuesday: Memory

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Playing Minion Memory
Playing Minion Memory
Playing Minion Memory
Playing Minion Memory
Playing Minion Memory
Playing Minion Memory
Playing Minion Memory
Playing Minion Memory & Collecting Matching Cards
Playing Minion Memory & Collecting Matching Cards

One of my favorite childhood games to pass the day away either by myself, with my siblings and mom or friends was “Memory.” Now, it is one of my favorite games to play with my two and a half year old daughter, and it’s becoming one of her favorite games too. Though the game is for ages three and up, she quickly grasped the concept, and after dinner she’ll ask, “Can we play the Minions Memory game please?”

When I played it as a youngster, I did not think about the cognitive aspects of the game, like sharpening my memory and the critical thinking and strategizing associated with the game. I was just focused on winning and finding the most matches. That seems to be Quinn’s focus too as she sometimes sneakily and sometimes unabashedly turns over multiple cards hoping to find a match. But it pleases me to know that this is a wonderful game for her cognitive development and for us to have some mother/daughter bonding.

Playing games with children, especially with my young daughter is tricky because I am not only teaching her the game but want to help her develop confidence in playing it. Since there are nearly fifty cards, we usually do half so that the game is not too long and to ensure that finding matches is not too daunting of a task for her. Then, I hold back and allow her to win. When she does collect more matching cards than I do, her little face lights up, her hands start waving as she holds on to some of the cards, and she dances around cheering, “I won, Mommy! I won! Guess what, Daddy! I beat Mommy at the Minion Memory game! I must admit, however, that Quinn is getting better and better, and I have a feeling that she will be beating me at memory in no time without me “helping” her to win.

All the best,

Tanya

Mommy’s “Moment” Monday

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Quinn Letting Me Know That She Knows How to Hold a Pocketbook

With each passing day, my little girl reminds me that she’s not so little anymore. Though she’s only two and a half, she often utters the phrase, “I can do it myself, Mommy! I don’t need help!” Of course, I’m so proud of her as she puts on her shoes, pushes up her sleeves to wash her hands or carries her dish to the sink, but it’s times like this when I need a “mommy moment.” I’m conflicted because I want my little girl to need me, but I also want her to be independent and willing to try tasks on her own. What’s interesting is the only instances when she will ask for help is if she thinks she cannot do something perfectly.

Just today, she was hesitant to draw her own happy face because she could not draw, according to her, a “good” circle. Then I found myself convincing Quinn that her circle and face did not have to be perfect and that she did a great job. I must admit, however, that I too am the perfectionist and have been since I can remember. I know what it’s like to put too much pressure on myself to be perfect or to stress over not making mistakes, and I certainly don’t want this type of pressure for Quinn. But as I am composing this post, I know that I am struggling with wanting to be the “perfect” parent who is there when my daughter needs me but able  back off and let her be independent and learn on her own.

This is my mommy moment this Monday, but I have a feeling this moment will be ongoing for years to come. Am I alone in this? I hope not.

All the best,

Tanya

I “Heart” Projects with My Sweet Little Girl

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Quinn’s Heart Project
Quinn’s Heart Project
Quinn’s Heart Project
Quinn’s Heart Project
Quinn’s Heart Project
Quinn’s Heart Project
Quinn’s Heart Project
Quinn’s Heart Project

Many people focus on how commercialized Valentine’s Day has become or use it to demonstrate the intimate and romantic love they may have for a significant other. While I do make a conscious effort to show love year round, I am grateful to experience the love of my daughter through togetherness and doing special Valentine’s projects together. For this project in particular, we purchased a heart person kit at Target which my two and a half year old selected because she really loved the rainbow hair.

She could not wait to get started. I loved it because the project was a great way for her to follow directions and demonstrate that she knows all of the parts of a face and where they belong. When we finished, she immediately insisted, “We have to show my heart with the crazy rainbow hair and moustache to Daddy! Please, Mommy!” As she went to show it to him, Quinn asked me, “Do you think Daddy will love it?” I responded, “Of course he will!” Her dad smiled and told her that she did such a nice job and that he loved it. She then asked if we could hang it up for everybody to see. I just love doing these projects with my little girl. It’s these sweet moments that I hold near and dear to my heart.

All the best,

Tanya

What Would We Do Without It Wednesday!: I Can Do It Reward Chart

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I Can Do It Chart!: Just Two More To Go for the Day!
I Can Do It Chart! Just Two More To Go for the Day!

Regardless of age, we all occasionally need some type of incentive or positive reinforcement to keep us motivated and on track with our goals. This is certainly the case with most two and a half year olds, including my little girl, who are testing the boundaries while trying to find their way as individuals. Sometimes, it’s a struggle to get them to listen, follow routines and put those “temper tantrums” aside, but there are many resources out there to help establish those boundaries and to promote positive behavior.

A few months ago, I purchased the, “I Can Do It Reward Chart” for my daughter from Amazon. Of course, I could have made up a chart myself, but having something already constructed with actual reusable stars and pre-made labels made the process easy for getting started. I did, however, add a nice border and frame to display it. I know some people are against star charts, and that is fine because everything is not for everybody. But my husband and I love this chart, and my daughter loves it too and will remind us if we do not review her behavior/tasks at the end of the day. Some of the labels we have chosen to use are no whining, clean up your mess, no yelling, eat your veggies and fruits and a few others. Something I do, however, is use more positive phrasing. For instance, instead of focusing on “no yelling,” I’ll ask her did she use an indoor voice? Each task has a picture along with the words, so Quinn is able to point to them as will say what she is supposed to do, “I cleaned up my mess today, Mommy!” she excitedly informs me.

This chart does a wonderful job at holding her accountable as long as we are consistent with going over what stars she has earned and where she may need to do better the next day. Every once in a while, she may be in a bad mood or may struggle to control her emotions, which is a struggle adults even have. Since we started using the chart, when she doesn’t earn a star, My husband and I will let her know that sometimes we all have rough days. She then informs us, “I can start over again tomorrow, and I will have a better day.” Yes, I would be kidding myself if I didn’t think that she is partially on her best behavior and completing tasks all day in hopes of earning a star and then getting a special reward, but I also believe that the chart helps to develop good habits and behaviors, and that she also does the tasks and behaves as she should because she knows what is right. What would we do without this chart!

All the best,

Tanya